normally when people have posts titled referencing their mother, it’s usually an endearing post about how much they love them and are grateful for them. though this post is not just a moment of praise to my mother, whom i am grateful to have in my life…this post is also about how crazy she makes me.
my mother tells me that i need to stop buying food and cook more. yet, i’m the one that has done grocery shopping in the house for the past two-three months. nonetheless, when i do cook—she NEVER eats what i cook. her excuse? I’m tired, I’ll eat it later.
I’m currently craving bacon, which is odd because i don’t eat pork. So i go into my mom’s room and tell her i’m getting a bacon omelette from ihop and asked if she wanted something. you know, being polite, she says oh well i want a bacon omelette too….oh and a waffle…and something with potatoes. hmmm didn’t you just tell me to stop buying food yet your order is larger than mine.
as a libra, i HATE double standards. yet my mother is full of them. of course people say well you can’t be mad that’s your mother. however, my response to them is always the same. i understand she’s my mother however you can not raise someone to be against double standards and then do them yourself. basically, within reason, i get angry at the things she told me to be angry about and of course i get told to not get angry.
recently a family member of mine encountered legal problems. my mom said that to help resolve this issue she would like to take $10,000 with her just in case anything were to occur. my mother asks me for money, i tell her i can only give $5,000. later on though my mother didn’t use the money she said, “well, you should have more money anyways.” what really grinds my gears about that though is that at the age of 22 I was able to put up HALF the amount you wanted to take because no one else in the family could and yet I get told that I should’ve had more money?!
I get yelled at for not cleaning the kitchen after I cook, which I do. Yet, when she uses the kitchen she leaves it sitting there and if I say something she says well why didn’t you clean it…my response, because if i were to say the same thing to you you would say that i’m being immature.
graduating from college my mother went on this whole thing of being roommates/equals so pretty much to each their own. now working 50-60 hour week and having to commute for an hour really does affect the amount of energy and time you have to do things around the house. NOW when i do clean and do my chores all is good, however my mother doesn’t do her cleaning due dilligence and she says “do we need to create a weekly schedule for when things need to get done because you don’t clean at all” mind you, my mother has attempted to implement things like that before and though i keep up with it she’s the one that fails.
basically what i’m trying to say is that though i am a responsible person and i tolerate my mother there is only so much hypocrisy that i can take. don’t say you’re going to do xyz and then end up doing abc. however whenever i do xyz and abc i still get yelled at for nothing anything.